Ever since I can remember, I have longed to be a mother. It started as a young girl, playing with dolls and practicing my “mommy” skills, and grew into babysitting for any and all families with children that I possibly could. So on that brisk Sunday afternoon when I took that pregnancy test because I “just didn’t feel quite right,” and it revealed a shockingly positive result, I felt overjoyed, shocked, and blessed. We had only begun trying just a few weeks before and it happened so quickly. Wow. Ryne and I were about to be parents! I loved this child so much already.
Well for several weeks we endured the very exciting firsts of being pregnant and fantasized about what our lives were about to be like as new parents. When we reached 20 weeks of pregnancy, we went in for our traditional “20 week sonogram.” I was anxious, and excited. I had dreamt about what it would be like to see our little peanut (that’s what we called him before we knew it was a “him”). At the same time, I had my reservations about what this experience would be like. My family has a strong history of skeletal deformation of their hands, and I worried about our child also having this deformation and what it might mean for their little life. Much to my relief and surprise, we discovered that our little BOY had all of his fingers and toes, and that was great! However, I noticed that when the sonogram technician zoomed in on his feet, she had very little to say and asked for clarification about the condition that runs in my family. I brushed it off, and didn’t think much of it. When our sonogram was over, they transferred us to a room and said that our doctor would be in shortly to discuss the sonogram with us. Okay, I thought, normal protocol. We are in the clear. Fingers and toes are in check. Good to go. When our doctor entered a few moments later, all I really remember are the words, possibility, and clubfeet. This was when the whirlwind that is now our lives began. My thoughts immediately went to the worst possible picture of Chinese bound feet that you could imagine and I fought back tears sitting on the table in that room in the doctors office. We were referred to a perinatal specialist and sent on our way. I walked out of that office like a disoriented victim of a disaster.
Over the next eight months of my pregnancy, the Lord reminded me how incredibly blessed I was to have the child I was about to give birth to. God worked through so many people to give us comfort and support. So many of our friends and family prayed every day for our sweet little man. Two very moving events happened when I was still pregnant that will forever remain pivotal points in our journey. A long time family friend and pastor of my husband’s family also had a baby born with clubfeet (it’s really more common than one might think.) They reached out to us and took us to coffee, shared their story, pictures, and prayed with us as well. How incredible it was to know we had people so close that had gone through everything we were about to experience as parents of a clubfoot baby. The other was one evening at a meeting for our children’s ministry. We were really struggling with a lot of different things in our lives at that time, and as we always did we closed our meeting in prayer. Our pastor and friends gathered around us, and prayed for us. They laid hands on us, and our feet and prayed for our son. It was an incredible moment.
Hudson Douglas Huff blessed our lives with his presence September 19, 2012 at 10:14 p.m.
After ten long hours of labor, and 15 short minutes of pushing…he was finally here! It’s hard to explain the feeling you get when you look into your child’s eyes for the very first time. I had waited
my entire life for this moment. To be honest, those first two days in the hospital I actually kind of forgot that he had clubfeet. So many other more important things to focus on!
As we took our sweet little boy out to the car and headed home, I had the same overwhelming heavy feeling that I did the day we found out Hudson had clubfeet. I bawled. I had to. I needed to get it all out. This wouldn’t be the last time either. We had quite the journey ahead. For the next several weeks we struggled to get into our new normal with our little man. Like every mother, I worried about my new baby but I had other worries as well. We checked his toes like we were supposed to, and tried to make him as comfortable as possible. All I can remember is thinking that we just had to make it to the next casting. Just like at Hudson’s first casting, I was incredibly nervous at his cast removal and second casting. When the casts came off, his poor baby feet were so wrinkled, bruised, and worst of all he had a few pressure sores on his feet.
Oh, there I was again. Bawling. This was so hard. I remember just praying. It was all I could do, just pray. So I did. One day, when my cousin was visiting us, she told me about a bible verse that really helped her after having her second son, Joshua 1:9 says,
We experienced many trying times in those first few months with Hudson’s treatment. After getting his tenotomy procedure done on a Friday afternoon our doctor sent us home. That night his casts bled through (as expected) but much more than we had anticipated. There I was again, worried sick. But, we made it through that too. His tenotomy actually went very well & he recovered wonderfully.
Hudson has his casts removed and received his first brace 4 months ago. He is now 6 months old. Time flies. I want so badly to capture each moment and hold them tight. It’s funny now to think that I was least worried about the transition from the casts to the boots and bar as this was the most difficult transition for Hudson. He had lived his little life in casts up to that point, and I think he found some security in them. So not having them was scary, I’m sure he felt weird and vulnerable. The first few nights we were up a few times trying to make sure he was comfortable and adjusted but it was no time before he was fully adjusted and learning to love his brace.
So that’s where we are now. Watching Hudson grow, and learn. He does everything a typically developing baby should do. He cries, laughs, eats, poops, rolls over, and grabs for anything he can get his little hands on!
I’m sure there will be moments that we will have to deal with the ups and downs of Hudson’s club feet, but the most important thing I will remember is that his feet are so very special. Just like he is. And while those feet make him special to us, they do not and will not define him. I cannot wait to watch my son grow into an incredible man of God who will go be the hands and feet of Christ.
Oh my goodness. Precious! He is adorable and is so very blessed to have you two as parents!ReplyDelete
I love you Anna, such a great story that God has made us a part of. Can't wait to tell our son all about this journey one day.ReplyDelete
Anna, Thanks so much for sharing this! You are so strong and your story will touch many others lives that are dealing with this same thing. And Hudson is just so adorable! :)ReplyDelete
O my word! You have no idea how much this has helped me! My son has club foot on the left side. He will be 6 weeks old in a fww dats and he just finished with his 4th and last cast. I was so excited to get him out of those casts but I had no idea he would have such a difficult time adjusting to his braces. He is so unhappy and it breaks my heart to see him this way. I feel so helpless! My hubby blames himself because he had club foot on his right side. We are both a mess and trying not to be around the baby. But this story and pictures has helped a lot. Reminds me of a quote a friend told me "God will never give you more than you can handle" I just need to remember that more often. Thank you so much for sharing.ReplyDelete